When you ask people what they enjoy about tied up sex, you will get a wide variety of answers and a few awkward jokes. You will find that most binding practitioners are motivated largely by their partners pleasure. To really understand tied up sex, you first have to tunderstand what makes a person want to be bound. I think that in many cases it is related to the contrast with daily life. Your boss may seem to micromanage your every move. Or you are held captive to your mobile phone to respond to pinging text messages.
Learning the Ropes: My Experience as a Rope Bunny
Why Some Powerful Men Like Getting Tied Up
As with most of the things that I currently do, I got into this unplanned. A friend thought I would be interested in shooting with a photographer she worked with. Perhaps the fact that she was a big name in the kink community should have tipped me off. Still, I dove right in, and I got my first experience as a rope bottom, also called a rope bunny. Obviously, it is not advisable to try kink on impulse, but it was something that I never looked back from. Now it has become an integral part of the image that I present to the public.
'Suddenly anything seemed possible'
In that fictional world, a powerful man plays out his sadistic fantasies as a powerless woman indulges her masochistic ones. In one study, for example, participants primed to feel more versus less powerful were more likely to reposition an annoying fan blowing on them. Many people have sadomasochistic impulses — one meta-analysis reported that between 31 percent and 57 percent of women have rape fantasies — but such impulses go against social norms that separate sex from violence, affection from domination. Therefore, the thinking goes, many people inhibit them.
I'll never forget that afternoon. It was 5pm and my world turned upside down. I'd just ordered John, my husband of 30 years, a jazz festival ticket for his birthday, and, to keep it a surprise, wanted to wipe the site from the computer's list of recently visited addresses. I'd never done this before.