The dishwasher is quietly humming in the finally cleaned kitchen. The kids are in bed. The look that means "I want sex. Our relaxation evaporates, our skin bristles, or our muscles tense up. We may love and adore our partners—yet suddenly we are on the defensive. We may have even wanted sex before we saw the look, but now we find ourselves backpedaling.
Sex addiction: 'My husband wants to have sex with me every day'
Photograph: Getty. Things will be okay for a while, but then he reverts to the same behaviour. Punishing a partner for not having sex by being disrespectful, emotionally distant or angry creates a dynamic where saying no to sex becomes imbued with anxiety or even fear of emotional retaliation. Consent is enthusiastic. Agreeing to sex only to avoid punishment is not consent. It is the result of coercion. You know your partner better than I do, however, and there is a possibility that he is not trying to be manipulative or cruel but is feeling rejected and reacting to those feelings immaturely.
My partner wants sex every night and sulks if I don’t agree
Sexual difficulties are among the most common difficulties in marriages. Underneath it all, though, is usually a big misunderstanding. There are usually a lot of other reasons that they want to have sex with you. And these reasons are usually a lot more kind and sincere than the ones that first come to your head.
Are you worried that your husband wants sex all the time? Do you want to explore why he is so ravenous for sex? Are you looking for ways to keep him happy in spite of your mismatched sex drives?